Appa, Coffee and Me

Today is Father's Day! Am sitting in that part of the world, where Mother's Day or Father's Day was not in practice! But today here also everybody recognizes and celebrates, and I guess, it's cause of Facebook, mainly, that everybody get to know what's happening in the rest of the world! And since it's sort of nice tradition I feel no harm in following it!? Last evening I happened to be in a coffee shop, ...since I was waiting for someone so I had a chance to look around and observe....! I love to observe people, and everything and I love to analyze or understand everything going around...! So as I was waiting with my brother, I saw couples coming to that coffee shop, of all ages, there was loud music, and on TV, they were showing how to reduce tummy fat, with some weird(I felt it that way) gadget. They have the most comfortable seats and you can sit there for any length of time, coffee, pastries,sandwiches are served to your table! Next to my table, there ...

Today is June 1st, in my part of the world, its already June 2nd, in many parts of the world, especially in India!  The same day, last year, Appa, my Dad left for ever! He was 88 years old,  to be precise he was 88 years, 4 months and 11 days! It was only 11 months, after my mom left for ever, he choose to follow her...very quickly!  I feel like, standing in a huge crowd, like a crowd in one of the Indian cities, Bangalore or Mumbai or like New York city, where actually you don't have to walk at all, people will push you,  literally and you would be moving with the crowd, in all the directions, the way crowd is moving! Yeah that happens, if you don't control or take charge of yourself and make yourself a way! I feel, the same way, mentally, things are just happening one after another but am just standing still!  I still haven't digest about my mom's passing away and this news came like a thunder storm on June 2nd morning, 8.30, last year......!  I cr...

It's been 4 months,  since I blogged....! But today, I just wanted to share or put my things out, so here I am! This morning I was in beauty parlor, I was getting my eyebrows done....!  It's a small beauty salon, with 4 chairs and couple of staff or beauticians, as you can call them.  I go there, since the people are very nice, caring and I know them very well now. I heard the door opened, the door has a small glass chimes, so whenever the door opens, you can easily know. Since I had closed my eyes, I could only hear, the chime sound and people talking...! A lady came inside, and said "She is my mom, will you do her eyebrows, I need to go and pick up my son from daycare, I will come back in half hour?" So the beautician said, "Sure, we will do"! And again I heard the door chime, and thought, the lady must have left....! Now I heard, the "mom" sitting next to my chair and immediately started talking in hindi, national language of India, wit...

Couple of weeks ago,  I was watching a movie...a Hindi movie or wait a minute, I cannot recollect, which language....these days I watch movies, and it can be Hindi/Kannada/English...so I am unable to recollect which language movie.  But I remember the phrase  in that movie which got registered in my head "God helps those who help themselves"!!!! I remembered my Appa!  That was his favorite phrase, he used to always quote that phrase!  And he had a unique way of saying that phrase, he used to say "God helps....." and stop, and look at our faces, and one of us, used to complete it "those who help themselves"! He used to stop expecting either my mom or my brother or myself, to complete the phrase! And if nobody completes, he used repeat again, "God helps..." and finally one of us used to complete!! Appa has explained the meaning of the phrase, which actually is so beautiful and very meaningful.  It emphasizes the importance of self initiative a...

2017 is coming to an end...! I felt this year just flew away....! This year was not good either...in terms of loosing Appa, suddenly, I just feel that, he left suddenly, abruptly! Its been only 6 months he left..! Last year, same time...Appa was not well and in the hospital. There is always this tradition here, that "Santa Claus" come, to every house, at this time of the year, a week before Christmas, and if you are outside, he gives you candy canes!!!! The local Fire Department guys, will come in the Fire truck, with the alarm ON, in the night time, so that people knows that they are coming! Kids especially, love to go out, way to Santa and he gives Candy canes, which becomes a special moment for them! The Fire truck passes by every house, every street, even small streets, so that nobody misses out, the glimpse of Santa and the candy canes! Kids always go out, even I go out with them, since I love to see the enthusiasm and cheer of all our neighbors and kids, and take...

Where and what should I start with, today!!  Mind is kind of blank or rather I can say, very silent today! Birthday!  Yeah it's my birthday, today!! Kind of funny, that I myself is writing about it...! Well, for a person like me, who is introvert and don't feel the need of attention, mentioning about my own birthday, seems bit silly and childish!? Anyways, I already did, lol, so like to express with you, that this birthday I felt that I am an orphan!! Orphan is a person without parents! And yes I lost both of them, in less than a year! I am an independent adult, married, with kids, a busy mom, husband travels for work, so have some extra weight of responsibilities and duties on my shoulder! But that does not mean that, I have to behave like an adult and move on....! I miss both of them terribly! I was my "Dad's Princess"! My birthday was always a special one, always filled with love, and happiness and always felt on top of the world, since he(they) used to ma...

Driving is one of the few things, which I really love! I can say, I conquered my many fears, by learning to drive! It took quite sometime, for me to drive, after coming to this country! But I did! And I really enjoy, feel accomplished and satisfied. It satisfies and makes me feel proud of myself, when I drive. But I never drove on a high way, long distance, and long distance in night or on a construction road, without shoulder nor drove, on narrow lanes, where big, huge, gigantic trucks, pass by you or in front of you or behind you, intimidating! This time, for the first time in our life, we thought we will drive, to our friend's house in Lansing and from there to Chicago and back home! Well, thats too much of distance to drive, almost 2000 miles all together! Even my husband has not done so much driving. We thought, since kids are growing up...they might enjoy and co-operate and appreciate driving. We went 10 day trip, 4 days pretty much driving! Since most of our drivin...